So many things affect how we see ourselves. We have been bombarded since birth with messages that go into our subconscious mind and form how we think, act, and believe about ourselves. I’ve been lost. For many years, I felt like I was living in a pinball machine, bouncing from one thing to the next, […]
I knew the definition of denial (refusal to admit the truth or reality of something). When I looked it up, there was another definition for denial (refusal to satisfy a request or desire.) So, denial is also a refusal to satisfy a request or desire. Huh, that made me think about how much I have […]
I have always been a prayer—not the word thing, a person who prays. I don’t know how else to write it. I was raised Catholic and learned prayers. In stressful moments, praying helped me calm down and know that things would change for the better. I believe praying or whatever meditative ritual you believe in […]
You can have boundaries and not even know it. Boundaries protect us. Our minds let us know when our boundaries are crossed, just like an alarm system on a house that lets the owner know something is wrong. Since we’re the owners of our minds, we can sense an impending boundary crosser and do something […]
Happiness is not a person, place, or thing. It’s a feeling. Walt Disney World is called the happiest place on earth, and when you’re there, you feel happy. Is it that Walt Disney World has some magical powers that cast happiness upon anyone who enters the coveted gates? Maybe, but I think it’s caused mainly […]
Years ago, I was fighting for boundaries. It felt like an enemy army was attacking me, using all it had to break down my defenses. And it worked! I was in a pinball machine bouncing from one thing to the next. Oh, you need help with your computer? Sure. You need someone to bake a […]
Olympic athletes work super hard to attain excellence. You need to be the best to win the gold at the Olympics. Let’s take the gold in our lives. <~><~><~><~><~><~><~><~><~> That means – we need to put ourselves first. we have to focus on what makes us feel happy. we need to believe we deserve […]
Do you know what we remember the most? Experiences. Say, “I do to you,” and those experiences are sure to be great! Sure, we can get a fabulous gift that we will have forever (like jewelry), and when we look at it, we can remember how it came to be. But – living, authentic living, […]
People are bullies for the simple reason they do not want to get hurt again. They say or do things to hurt another person (most times without thinking it through), so they don’t have a chance of getting hurt. Think about it. Bullies were once hurt, and it doesn’t feel good to them. They couldn’t […]
I fondly remember a time when I used to play, have fun, enjoy life, and make happy memories. It wasn’t that long ago, so what happened? Sure, the more responsibility we have to tackle, the more we can feel overburdened where we forget to take a break and enjoy a pleasant moment. We are the […]