I’ve heard this question before to ask yourself, “What is your why?” The answer, I assume, tells us who we are, what is our passion, and what makes us happy?  To be honest, I couldn’t answer this question.

Seriously. I wrote that question down many times, hoping I’d write simple answers that would guide me – and help me plan my life. But nothing came. I procrastinated and avoided answering it.

Why?

Well, I asked that question, too – to figure out my why. I know, that was a confusing sentence but you know what I mean.

I wrote. I kept writing until I got to a nugget of truth I had avoided knowing.  I couldn’t answer the question because I was separated from my soul, the part of us that expresses our genuine feelings, beliefs, and hopes.

Then, I had to figure that out.

I know myself and everyone else are merely working with the program we know.

My why is to be me. To be proud to be me. And to share the good that I have produced and continue to produce.

To figure out your why, take a little time to be quiet. Put away all distractions. Ask yourself, what is your why? The answer is going to help you follow your bliss and be happy.

Once you figure out your why, you don’t have to make drastic changes. If your why is to overcome fear and be an airline pilot and have never flown a plane before. Take that dream and write out the steps you’d need to take to make that happen. Sign up for lessons, look at job availability, etc.

Don’t be afraid to learn your why. It was hard for me to write it out because of the skewed beliefs I had, and I shunned my soul, my true self. If we have that separation going on inside us, it’s tough to know what your why is.

Though painful experiences can stick to us, they also define us in a way that we sometimes live through the lens of pain instead of living as our authentic selves. That is because the damage done creates scars, and just like when our skin develops a scar, depending on the depth, it could continue to hurt for years. It’s when we acknowledge the bad stuff that we can work on filling ourselves up with the good stuff we need to honor our whys.

This may seem deep and philosophical, but it’s very simple.

When you can answer what is your why, you will figure out your life.

Who do you want to spend time with? What brings a smile to your face? What gets you fired up?

Life, growing up, getting older, is a gift. Once we appreciate every single day as a gift, we’re on our way to living a damn wonderful life!

Thank you for spending your time reading these words. I write them to inspire change for the better.  I am grateful for this opportunity to do so.

To your why,

Francesca